You’ve done the meditations. You’ve attended the yoga classes. You’ve had multiple healing sessions. You attended the seminars and retreats. You’ve read the books, watched the videos, listened to the podcasts, and after all of that… your life still looks the same. “What gives!?” you ask. “What more is needed for me to grow?”
So often when we get into our healing journey, we tend to absorb a ton of information. We get involved in so many activities so that we can dive into our spiritual side and bring more spirituality to our lives. But with more “spiritual connection” seems to bring more stagnation in our lives. What gives?
‘What gives’ is right. It’s not that the information we’re learning is bad, nor is it not useful. It’s not like these tools don’t work. Of course they do. But with all the info and events the most important thing to remember is this:
True transformation requires action.
“But wait a sec, Tim! You just said above that I’m attending yoga classes, retreats, reading books, and the like. So aren’t I already transforming? What more ‘action’ do I need to take?” Let me break it down for you…
Eastern + Western Philosophies = Transformation
When I talk about core philosophies, I’m generally speaking of the themes of both East and West. When you look at the philosophies of the Western world, it is generally focused on “doing”. Everything is about doing to achieve something, doing to have something, doing to be something. Even Nike’s slogan says, “Just do it.” The West is very action oriented.
The Eastern philosophy, instead, is about “being”. To be something in order to have something or to do something. Think about Taoism, which is about being a way that is in service to the world. Or Confucianism which was how to be a better person in society. Even in Buddhism, being in a state of non-attachment to achieve enlightenment. You don’t do something to release your attachments, you learn to be and they release themselves.
So which one is better? Neither. You need both. Being and doing are of equal value and one is not above the other. In order to be, you must do, and to do, you must be.
Take yoga for example. For many people, yoga is an activity of exercise and they use it to help them be more mindful and healthy. But yoga is not a form of exercise. It is a way of life. The yoga philosophy is meant to be incorporated in to all areas of your life, not just when you’re on a yoga mat and certainly not only in yoga pants. Thankfully, some people are changing that narrative.
Many people learn how to do yoga but not how to be a yogi. I’m not saying you have to give up everything, become a monk, and isolate yourself so you can grow (although some isolation is necessary for growth), but bringing these philosophies into your daily life, not just the stretches, will help you to have a more peaceful and balanced life.
Some spiritual teachers have said that being comes before doing. That you have to be before you can do. In my journey I’ve learned that they happen simultaneously. In being, you are doing and in doing, you are being.
Intentional Action: Integration of Being+Doing
Anyone can take action doing anything but when it is intentional, it allows you to go further. This requires us to look at the actions we take and why we want to do them. It also requires us to have a vision that is connected to our target.
Having a vision for what we want allows us to start with the target in mind (not end, because there is no end ;-)) and using that vision to fill in the gaps along the way. This allows us to do the actions that will create our outcome and be-come the highest and best version of ourselves along the way.
In order to manifest that vision, we need to create a foundation to bring it into existence. Start asking yourself why you want something, how you are going to get it, and what you need to do to get there. Start with the vision, ask the questions, and fill in the gaps with a combination of actions that allow you to become that vision.
More Is Not Always Better
One thing that social media has done is gotten people to believe that you have to do more. More activity, more classes, more, more, more. So many people are pushing the “hustle hard” model that is leading people into burnout. We’ve fallen in love the the culture of busyness that we don’t know when to stop.
While there are some things I believe we need more of, such as human engagement, more of everything isn’t going to solve the problem. In fact, some of us are doing too much that we aren’t absorbing anything anymore because we’re overstimulated. In bringing our visions to life, we need to take stock of our activities.
Start looking at what transformation actions you’re taking and keep a few that really connect with you physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. These are practices that you use regularly and/or have been the most beneficial in your healing and transformation. The rest of the practices can be put on hold temporarily, even if you like them.
This is very important to understand because over-stimulation is a real issue here. Yes, even with spiritual and healing practices. The biggest issue with taking on too much information that you can’t absorb is ultimately it contributes to spiritual bypass. That can be worse than not knowing at all.
There’s a big difference between knowing information and utilizing it. Knowledge isn’t true power. Knowing is only half the battle (GI JOE was saying this in the 80s for goodness sakes!). You don’t want to just know something but to be able to embody that in your life. If you are struggling to absorb some of the spiritual teachings and use them in your life, it might be time to take a break from a few of them. You can always revisit them later.
Own Your Healing Process
Probably the most important part of any healing/transformation journey is the ownership of the process. At some point, you need to take responsibility for your own healing.
I mentioned at the start of the blog that people have used healing sessions and retreats as healing tools and I totally support it. I’m a healer myself so of course I do! But I’m only one part of the process. The rest is up to you.
You can work with a healer or a coach, or both, you can attend all the groups, healing seminars, and retreats. But all they can do is help you release old stuff and clear a path to your healing, and they can only clear stuff that you’re ready to let go of.
A healer or coach can only guide you through the process. They are not responsible for your healing, you are. What you do when you’re away from them is on you. Yes, you can’t heal yourself alone, and you do need help but you can’t put it all on them. They can’t do it all for you.
I used to be a person who expected a healer to do it all for me, even in the early days of becoming a Theta Healing practitioner. Over time, I realized that if I didn’t do the work, nothing would change. This forced me to look at what worked and what didn’t and ultimately, I got the healing I was looking for. I still get worked on but I don’t put everything on the other person.
This isn’t a complete list but I hope it gets you started on a healthy healing/transformation journey. If you need help with your own transformation, let’s talk. If you’re feeling lost, I understand and can help with that. Book a free consultation with me and let’s get you in line with your vision and truth.